Care for a perfect relationship?

Its 11:38 pm and I am currently sitting at a window that shows me the tall commercial buildings of Melbourne. Its quiet yet noisy. There are nothing but buildings here, I see no lakes, birds, beautiful scenery and on top of that, all the people around this area are quarantined. Locked in for 14 days without fresh air. What’s the first thing that pops in your head? Oh no, that sucks, there must be so much anxiety and depression in the air. That’s right, there is definitely chaos but there is also peace. Isn’t that how most relationships are? Be it friendships or romantic relationships. They’re chaotic but they also bring you peace.

There are so many different kinds of people in this world but do they need the same things? Do they give the same emotions? Do they act the same way? No, they don’t, owing to a variety of factors such as the environment they were in, their relationship with their family, the way they perceive love etc. There is one thing that each and every person wants, demands and requires, and that is care. I find very little people who show that care to other people. The reasons for reluctance in showing they care might be that they’re afraid that they’d get hurt, maybe they want to keep their guard up or maybe, they just don’t know the means to show it. It makes sense as not caring is considered “cool” (I don’t even know how that works). However, saying it out isn’t the only way to show that you care, actions always speak louder than words. Noticed how most friendships or relationships end with the sentence “I don’t care” or “you don’t care”? Most people look for that perfect relationship where their partner matches all their needs and when that doesn’t happen, these words involving care are thrown across like a sharp knife. So, how do you fall in love knowing that there is no perfect relationship?

When no human being is perfect, how can any relationship be perfect? That is like expecting to ride a unicorn and getting a horse instead. Now, no matter how beautiful and healthy that horse is, you are just going to be disappointed because you did not get a unicorn. Unicorns don’t exist. When you like someone, you just like them for who they are. You don’t see the secondary factors and these factors can be different for different people. All I am saying is, sometimes, you don’t get to choose who you fall in love with, it just happens. You get to know them, and then you decide whether the differences in the other person are worth accepting. You decide to make that imperfect relationship work. You might not get all that you desire and you may not be giving all that they desire but what matters is, are they worth it? The moment you feel like staying is harder than leaving, leave without a second thought because that’s the best you can do for the both of you. Until then, enjoy YOUR “perfect” relationship because the world will always remain imperfect.